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Florence Cole as a child

Arrangements at a death in early
1900s working class families

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Contacting the undertaker

When I was a child in the early 1900s and there was a death in the house, the first thing to do was to get a message to the undertaker. He would bring the the shell of a temporary coffin to the house. Then the body would stay at home in the parlour for about a week to give time for the funeral arrangements to be made.

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Announcing the death

Card with a black edge which came through the post to notify of a death, standard practice in Victorian and Edwardian times.

Card with a black edge which came through the post to notify of a death.

The relations had to be informed, and in those days we had to rely on the post, as the telephone was not for the likes of ordinary people. The custom which has long died out was the black edge to note paper and envelopes. Sometimes when our parents received one of these letters, it was their first intimidation that there was a death in the family.

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Registering the death

My mother's recollections say nothing about registering the death. Presumably this was something that she, as a child, was never involved in. Certainly by law, deaths had to be registered.

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The accepted clothes for mourning

Man wearing a black armband, the symbol of mourning in early 1900s Britain

Man wearing a black armband, the symbol of mourning a dead relative or close friend - screenshot from a pre-WW2 film.

The order of the day was for the adults in the immediate family to wear all black clothes, and these had to be bought or borrowed. Children did not wear black. We wore a black armband on a coat sleeve, as did distant relations.

Widows' weeds were veils of black tulle, about 2 ft [600 mm] square, attached to women's hats. They could be pulled over the face or allowed to hang down the back, and were worn for about three months which was the recognised time of mourning. Grey was considered as half-mourning which took over after the period of the full three month mourning.

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Wax flowers in a glass dome, common on graves in the early 1900s where they would stay for years

Wax flowers in a glass dome, common on graves. Photographed in Sun Hill Museum.

Ordering flowers for the coffin

Flowers had to be ordered.

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Pat Cryer

Artificial wreaths were quite fashionable at the time. These were about the size of a family cake and consisted of wax flowers attached to a base and covered with a glass dome case. The donor's card was inside. These wreaths could remain on the grave for a number of years. It was customary for neighbours to collect for a wreath, usually about three [old] pence per house.

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This website Join me in the 1900s is a contribution to the social history of everyday life in 20th century Britain from the early 1900s to about 1960, seen through personal recollections and illustrations, with the emphasis on what it was like to live in those times.